You Deserve Someone Who

You deserve someone who loves you are much as you love them.

You deserve someone who calls you when they say they are going to. For that matter, you deserve someone who follows through. And someone who wants to call you and wants to talk to you.

You deserve someone who you can be yourself around. Who gets you. Who loves your sense of humor and who you can really be yourself around.

You deserve someone who won’t judge you for what you eat or how much you work out. You deserve someone who won’t give you a judgmental look when you mention that you ate some ice cream or that you didn’t go for a run that day.

You deserve someone who holds doors open for you, pays for you, and doesn’t feel emasculated if you open the door for them, or you pay for them.

You deserve someone who won’t punish you after an argument.

You deserve someone who wants to show you off to their friends and family.

You deserve someone who, if they don’t feel the same way about you, will tell you and not just ignore you, not reach out to you, or phase you out of their life because they don’t respect you enough to be honest with you.

You deserve someone who respects you. Someone who who won’t play games or manipulate you.

You deserve someone who will make time for you. Someone who won’t make you feel like you are inconveniencing them. Someone who will initiate seeing you and talking to you. Someone who will put in the work, just as you would.

You deserve someone who thinks you are the greatest thing ever, because, well? You are.

And when you find that person, you’ll know why you deserve all of this and so much more. They’ll make sure you know it and you’ll start to believe it.


Road Trip Wrap-Up

So, it my trip was a little different than I initially planned.

Initially I said my drive across country would consist of the following:

Just over 3,000 miles.

5-6 days.

3 dog parks.

12 states.

Stops overnight in the following cities:

Roanoke, VA
Nashville, TN
Oklahoma City, OK
Santa Fe, NM
Phoenix, AZ (possibly – it depends how tired we are)

And ending at our destination…San Diego, CA

In the end, our new route looked like this…

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…and consisted of:

3400 miles.

7 days.

2 dog parks: Jackson, MS and El Paso, TX.

14 states.

Stops overnight in the following cities:

Roanoke, VA
Nashville, TN
New Roads, LA
Round Rock, TX
Silver City, NM

…and of course, we ended in San Diego.

New Mexico, Arizona, and San Diego.

All day Monday was spent driving through Texas (literally all the way across) from Austin through El Paso, and to Silver City, New Mexico for the night.

Before we got to our hotel, we did what we did throughout the trip: we stopped and got dinner.

We did some Googling and Yelping before getting to Silver City, and decided on The Jalisco Cafe.

We got an incredible combination plate, which included chicken enchiladas, chicken tacos, rice and beans, as well as chiles rellenos (stuffed peppers). We opted for the green chile sauce, which was spicier that the other option, but we were happy since green chiles are native to New Mexico. The pictures of the food weren’t all that great, but I promise you that if you’re in or around Silver City, this place is a must. Even the locals we talked to agreed.

We then headed to our hotel, the Econolodge in Silver City. It was merely a place for us to rest our heads, but we were surprised by all of the amenities in the room and at the hotel (including a microwave and fridge, swimming pool, and full breakfast), and we would definitely stay here again.

The next day, we woke up early, and began our trip west for our last day of our trip. I was most excited about New Mexico before my trip began and I was not disappointed by its beauty.

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Next stop: Arizona.

Not much to write about here. By this point we were eager to get to San Diego. We did stop in Yuma for lunch and liked that city a lot. We planned on getting In-N-Out but then saw there was a Chipotle and thought that would be a healthier option after all the food we ate during our trip (and before, with Thanksgiving and various dinners/happy hours with friends and family before leaving).

More Arizona…

Then we made it to California!

We got into San Diego around 4:00 pm, after 9 hours of driving. As we drove towards the city and got off our exit, I made Adam put on California Love for me. It was necessary.

And so, I will leave you with that song.

Advice on Packing

In my process of becoming an adult, yesterday, I learned how to pack. So here is some unsolicited advice on packing for a move, whether you’re going down the street or across the country.

  1. Pack heavy stuff in smaller boxes. Initially (because I’m an idiot), I bought a few big boxes and put all of my plates/glasses/dishes into two big boxes. Then when it came time to move it from the kitchen to the living room, I was having a hard time. I couldn’t lift the box. I somehow woke up yesterday morning realizing that these two boxes would break, and then went to my mom’s and picked up some smaller boxes. Now all of my dishes are in four or five smaller boxes, but they are packed tightly and will be easier to carry.
  2. Save packing stuff from Amazon/other packages you receive. My mom saved a few boxes and a bunch of the plastic filling (or bubble wrap) for packages she’s received over the past few weeks and it has been perfect in padding the aforementioned dishes and other things that might have a little extra space to move around. And I didn’t have to pay for these boxes or filling.
  3. Wrap plates/glasses in plastic wrap. This will help prevent things from moving and thus breaking, but if they do break, they are protected by the plastic wrap and you won’t get broken glass all over your stuff. I got this tip from one of my good friends who has done a long-distance move before. For example, I stacked four large glasses together, and put a paper plate on the inside of each glass, and then wrapped the stack tightly in plastic wrap. And I stacked all of my big plates on top of each other and in between each of these plates, I put a single paper plate. Then I wrapped all of them tightly in plastic wrap, and then wrapped them in clothes, which brings me to my next point…
  4. Wrap fragile things in clothes. This is a lovely tip I picked up from Reddit but after wrapping things in plastic wrap, I wrapped them up further in clothes that I won’t be needing immediately for my drive out there/for when I start work. This means that I didn’t have nasty newspaper covering my stuff (which works, because I also don’t receive a newspaper), and I was able to pack my clothes in some of these boxes as well.
  5. Label each box with a number, and write down the inventory separately. This was a suggestion from my mom’s boyfriend, which is actually some good advice. I have a notebook full of inventory for each numbered box, in addition to marking the outside of the box, so this will ensure that everything gets delivered and I have everything I packed. It also helped me in figuring out which items I was forgetting to pack.
  6. When looking for a moving company, shop around. I mentioned it before, but I initially looked at PODS for my long distance move, in addition to U-Box (U-Haul’s version of PODS), U-Pack, and UShip. The first two were right around $3000 for everything; U-Pack was around $2500 (and I’d have to load/unload myself); and when I posted to UShip (carriers bid in an auction to move your stuff via freight load), I never heard back from anyone. While any of these four options may be viable for other people and other moves, for me it was not. I did some research and found (via Reddit, again) a company called Door to Door. For under $2000, I have the same kind of service that I’d get with PODS, except it’s better because they have movers come and load up the container for me, and the customer service representatives there aren’t rude. So, long story short: shop around, because when I did, it saved me $500-$1000.

That’s all I have for now. I’m still finishing up some packing right now but I thought this might be helpful to others.

Door to Door drops off/packs up my container tomorrow, and then it’s on its way to sunny San Diego. It is supposed to arrive the day before I start work, but it may take longer depending on how bad the winter weather is in the midwest. So we’ll see what happens with that.

In other news, it’s 30 degrees here and almost 60 degrees in San Diego. Just saying.

In other other news, Adam and I signed a lease and we’re just waiting for confirmation that we got an awesome place (with a fenced in backyard for Maeby!!). So that’s pretty exciting.

A Whirlwind.

The past week has been quite a whirlwind. That’s really the only way I can describe it. And the next week is going to be even crazier.

Last Monday, my boss announced the news to everyone. The amount of support that I received from colleagues and superiors made me feel really good about things and even more positive about everything. I also had three fillings done on Monday. Which brings my total I think to 16 cavities. I should really learn how to brush my teeth one of these days.

Thursday was my 25th birthday. I went to dinner with my family (sushi, duh) and shared a scorpion bowl with my mom. My 97 year-old grandma had a few sips as well.

She’s a funny one.

Friday night I went to dinner with my boss and another coworker. More sushi. Stop judging. My boss was thrilled because it was a sushi buffet, and that girl can eat.

Saturday the other side of my family came over for a potluck dinner. Fitting 20 people into my apartment wasn’t easy, but it worked. And that was with five kids running around. I was lucky the downstairs neighbors weren’t home. When I finally let Maeby out of my room to join the party, she literally went to every single person and greeted them by licking their face. I love that dog.

Last night, I drove up to Worcester to meet up with four of my best friends from college. We went to a lovely little Vietnamese place right near campus, and it was really nice. We laughed a lot, caught up, and I’m really hoping they’ll all come visit.

And now the plans for this week:

Today! I coach a high school sport in the fall and tonight we are having our annual banquet. I will be breaking the news to my players and I know they’ll be devastated (as will I), but I’m hoping the wonderful news of the head coach will overshadow mine. Then, after the banquet…Adam is coming home! He flies in tonight, and I’ll be picking him up around 9:30 p.m. I can’t wait to see that boy.

Tuesday. My second to last day of work, followed by drinks with Adam and my coworkers. Adam and I are also hoping we will hear back about this apartment we realllllly want. Maeby wants it too because it has a big fenced in backyard for her to run around in.

Wednesday. My last day of work (wtf) and dinner with my step-sister.

Thursday. Running my annual five-miler in the morning (for the seventh year, I think) and then eating until I fall asleep.

Friday. Lunch with my dad (and Adam and my dad meeting for the first time, yikes), and dinner at Adam’s mom’s house.

Saturday. Pack, pack, packing.

Sunday. Pack, pack, packing.

Monday. The movers are coming and loading up a giant container with my stuff, and I’ll say goodbye to it for two weeks.

Tuesday. Moping around.

Wednesday. Saying “see you later” to Connecticut and getting in my car with Adam and Maeby. Then we’ll begin our 5-6 day trip out to San Diego.

It’s all really crazy. I’m still failing to grasp the enormity of everything. I realize this is a huge thing, but I don’t think I’ll realize how crazy and how big of a deal it is until I’m in my car with Adam and Maeby and we’re just beginning our 3,000 mile journey across country.

Another Week Gone By, Another Week Closer to California.


Left Maeby at my mom’s house so I could run some errands before and after work.


Off to the post office I went, to send out the brownies I made on Sunday, along with some other handmade things. Sometimes I get creative. This was one of those times.

After work, I stopped by my mom’s house and picked Maeby up. She was wiped out the rest of the night.



Tuesday started off with an early-morning run before work, while watching the latest episode of How I Met Your Mother…


Then I caught the beginnings of a beautiful sunset on my way out of work…


Came home to find a package sitting in front of my bedroom door. The roommate had picked it up and put it there. I knew it was an early Valentine’s Day gift from Adam, and I was so unbelievably happy about what it was, because I have wanted this print for awhile now…


Then Maeby cuddled up to me…


And cuddled up to me even more because she is definitely the most cuddly dog ever…


And then my roommate took this ridiculous picture of us. My dog looks jacked, by the way. I swear she’s not that muscular at all. She’s also not a big dog…

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Caught another beautiful sunset.


Went to Crossfit.


14 minutes AMRAP:

5 push press 135/95 (scaled)
10 goblet squats 53/35 (scaled)
15 kettlebell swings 53/35 (scaled)

=7 rounds plus 6 kettlebell swings

Then Skyped with Adam, because he got his gift in the mail.


Valentine’s Day.

Morning time with Maeby.

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Adam sent me flowers. I feel terrible because they didn’t get to me and when he contacted the company, even though he ordered them to arrive at my work before 5:00 pm, they told him they wouldn’t be able to get to me on time and they’d bring them on Friday. I’m not upset, I just feel terrible, because I know he put was really excited about it. To be honest, I’m just thrilled by the fact that he thought to do it.

Oh well.

Came home and ate some leftover Indian food. Chicken saag? Yes please.

Then Skyped with Adam for awhile.


Early morning walk with Maeby, caught the sun rising…


Got some good news regarding Adam’s birthday present. I won’t post about it since he sometimes reads here, but…great news. Great, great news.

Flowers from Adam! They made it. I got into work, and just as I was putting my lunch away, I noticed the delivery guy dropping off the flowers I was supposed to get yesterday, but didn’t. They were absolutely perfect and I couldn’t wait to get them home and put on my windowsill.



Maeby got one of her Christmas presents…finally.

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Made chevre and fig preserve-stuffed chicken breasts.

I took Maeby for a walk and experienced something pretty scary. The good news is that I’m okay and Maeby is okay. And all is well.


Morning errands. A couple inches of snow fell overnight and everything looked beautiful.


Visit with my grandma. She’s 96 years old, by the way.

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Treadmill workout while watching “Tiny Furniture“…ran a total of 4 miles, walked a couple, and did abs.

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And now just hanging out with the roommate and enjoying the weekend.

California in less than a week!

It was a good week.

This week was good.


3-mile run in the morning with Maeby.
Photographing an event at work.
An afternoon at my mom’s with the dogs.




3-mile run with Maeby.
Leftover coconut fried chicken for dinner.

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Maeby time.


Skype. Again.


Crossfit. 20 mins to work up to 5 RM Deadlift – 190#
Row with a partner, 500m, 400m, 300m, 200m, 100m. Each completing the distance before the next person can do it. For time.
Dinner with Rob and Zach. Braised short rib. Yes please.

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Nice drive into work. Fog and snow is a beautiful combination.

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Lunchtime workout. I love my job and I love that we have an amazing fitness center on-site where I can work out whenever I want.

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More Maeby time.
Skype. Obviously.


Walked out of work to see this.



In the morning…


CXWorx class with my boss and a quick two-mile run during our lunch break.

Came home and snacked on one of my favorites.


Skyped with Adam. And he showed me this line from something he’s writing up. I love it.


“They both smile, life is good, if only for the moment.”


Woke up.
Laid around.
Started watching Downton Abbey.
Skyped with Adam for hours.
Played fetch with Maeby. Then she was wiped out.


And then it was Sunday. Today.

Worked an event this morning and loved the easy and beautiful commute in.


Took Maeby for a ride.


And then we made it official.

Only a few more weeks and I will be out there.